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Is it Possible to Save Sex for Marriage?



Sex is a lot like fire.


Fire is powerful. When used in the proper context, it can accomplish amazing things - warmth, light, fuel, power, and ambiance. Campfire smores, Independence Day fireworks, and even the moon landing would not be possible without fire. When fire remains in the confines of a campfire circle, fireplace, or engine, it is a force for good. However, when removed from its intended context, fire can create long-lasting damage. We’ve recently witnessed the devastating aftermath of uncontained wildfires in California, South America, and Australia. The displaced flames have claimed lives, homes, and millions of acres.


Sex, like fire, is powerful.


It’s a gift intended for good! When practiced within the confines of marriage, it brings connection and enjoyment without shame, fear, or adverse consequences. When taken outside of the boundaries of marriage, it will eventually cause damage.


We all know the physical consequences of sex – STDS, STIs, and unplanned pregnancy. But sex also causes painful, long-lasting scars to our mental and emotional health that can be just as permanent.


So how do you keep sex within its intended context? Is it possible to save sex for marriage from this moment forward? Yes! But it will require intention.


These three steps will help you reserve sex for your future spouse.


1) Know Your Why


Hope is a powerful motivator. Choose to focus on what you’re fighting for rather than what you’re giving up. Why are you saving sex for marriage? What do you want your future relationships, marriage, and sex life to look like? Allow yourself to become captivated by the beauty of what could be.


2) Know Your Boundaries


It’s nearly impossible to set boundaries in the heat of the moment. Know yourself and your weaknesses. Your boundaries will include specific physical actions, but you may need to add guidelines like - no hanging out in bedrooms, kissing while lying down, or removing clothing. Know which environments make you vulnerable to crossing boundaries. Choose to take a walk rather than watching a movie in an empty house, spend time together in public places, or make it a practice to leave doors open when you’re in a room alone.


3) Know Who’s Keeping You Accountable


The American Society of Training and Development (ASTD) found that you have a 65% chance of completing a goal if you commit to someone. When you engage in regular accountability appointments, your chances of success go up to 95%. Is someone holding you accountable? This person should be dependable, support your goal, and be willing to ask hard questions. If you don’t have a friend who fits the bill, consider asking a trusted aunt or uncle, mentor, or leader in your life.


What Now?


No matter your past decisions or sexual history, it’s possible to reserve sex for your future spouse.


Where do you begin?


Remember why you are waiting, don't let anyone change your boundaries, and find a friend to help keep you accountable and reach your goals.


And coming from someone who waited, I promise you, you won't regret it!

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